If there were major failings in the woman, why did he choose her and what about himself allowed him to stay?
Acceptance of his own role in this life calamity will help him to avoid problems with the next relationship.
While the culture is changing, it is still less acceptable for men to admit to feelings of fear, helplessness, sadness, grief and anxiety.
At the extreme, anger that leads to any type of physical aggression can cause legal trouble.
Domestic violence rates increase during periods of separation.
Sadness feels weak and men often experience humiliation when they feel weak. This tough guy stance may come out with friends and family who try to support the bereaved man, pushing them away.
The message can be “I don’t have a problem, I can handle this fine on my own”.
One emotion our society does easily accept from men is anger, so it is often anger that we see in men, especially when they are in the presence of others.